How to Hold a Woman and Make A Her Feel Comfortable In your Presence.
I am about to tell on you surefire way of becoming the most popular guy in your circle of friends, that is, women friends. Not just one time or occasionally but ALL of the time. One interesting thing is that this technique becomes even more effective when girls are not exactly at the top of their game. In other words, it is when girls are sad, scared, frustrated or a bit peeved that this will totally work in your favor.
Your secret weapon is knowing the right way in the art on how to hold a woman. You heard me correctly. When it comes to giving a woman a hug, there is a right way and a wrong way.
Even if this sounds lame and like stuff for sissies, you will be surprised at where knowing how to hold a woman can bring you. If you are laughing now, wait until we reach the section for the department of whispering to chicks. The deal is this: For you to stand out and become branded in her memory compared to every other guy she has ever met in her life, you need to be the 1 person who is a representation of her “Prince Charming.”
You must have heard this at one time or another. Every woman has a fantasy soul mate Prince she has dream’t of since childhood. When do women feel they need a Prince Charming? It is when things aren’t going so well and she isn’t feeling quite up to the weather. The good news is that having skills in the women-holding department will make her feel like you are the Prince she needs in her life right now.
It is not really that hard to learn this. You can actually use your new skills the moment you get the hang of it. Exactly what does it mean to know how to hold a woman? The important thing to remember is that when it comes to women, the number one thing on her mind is security and safety. You heard me right; this applies to EVERYTHING when it comes to women.
When you come along as a confident man, you have the power to make her confident. This is what separates the wheat from the chaff, or the successful guys from those who are not able to keep a girl. Women who are not really feeling up to the weather really prefer that a man hold them. I guarantee that knowing how to hold a woman will win you points.
However, it can’t be just any guy. It has to be someone who is truly interested in what is best for her. If you are just trying score points, she will sense this and you will stop being the guy she ‘goes to’ when she wants to be held. As much as women need to be held, they are also quite sharp when it comes to sensing the motives of the guy they are with. This is step number one. When accurately learning the skills about how to hold a woman, scoring points should not be your hidden motive, or anything with regard to where this could lead.
This is what it means for a guy to be aware and available emotionally, and the moment you master this, you will be able to make progress the way few other guys can. This is truly what it is all about. Once you see a woman you know who looks like she is feeling under the weather, all you need to do is stand in front of her and look into her eyes compassionately enough to make her understand that you totally understand how she feels.
The most incredible part of this is that you DON’T HAVE TO SAY ONE WORD.
When she meets your gaze, all you need to do is open your hands even a little bit and this is where it all begins. Of course, at times you will need to say “What’s wrong (say her name here)? If she feels confident in you, she will tell you something, if not everything that is going on. After she is finished is when you make a motion to hug her. As you hug her in your arms, put one arm around her lower or middle back and one arm around her shoulders.
Remember that there should be NO BACK-PATTING INVOLVED as you hug her.
The psychology behind this is that when you pat someone on the back as they are hugging you, it subconsciously says that you are not feeling uncomfortable. After all, brotherly hugs are interrupted by giant back-slapping. Obviously, this is because guys are not really into hugging. This is also communicated to women and she will be able to sense your discomfort as you hug her. In other words, it is not going to go smoothly if you begin the back-patting process.
Another important point is not to press your hips against her or do anything sexual, since this is going to be counterproductive to the direction you want to take. Hold her tighter than is normally perceived to be okay. Remember that this is not a bear hug either, but rather, a TRUE HUG, and you are not just being socially gracious. One important point is to let her begin letting go first. You have gone this far, don’t short change her now. For as long as it takes, be there for her.
THIS IS ALL THERE IS WHEN IT COMES TO HOW TO HOLD A WOMAN
At this point, all you need to do next is to be attentive. If she begins to slap you on the back, be careful about making sure there are no motives that are sexual involved. Back-slapping coming from her might be an indication that is not comfortable with the HUG even if she feels comfortable with YOU. This is the time to keep cool and be the leader. Waiting for her to begin letting go is next. If she is not used to being hugged by you, she will do one of two things. Either she will bail before the hug occurs or bail early.
If the opposite is happening, however, and she is hugging you tightly, and even pressing her hips against yours, then this is a totally positive signal that she is into you. When this happens, you can start moving your hand to her nape and let her lean on your shoulder. This is a true blue “kiss test” iteration by David D. This theory says that if a woman lets you touch her hair, you can kiss her. If your woman keeps holding on to you, hold on to her as well.
If ten seconds goes by and she keeps her body next close to yours, do not flip out and just keep rolling with it. Remain focused on the comfort you are giving her and keep your composure. Once there is a mark on all the check boxes, give her a smack on the forehead as soon as you sense her letting go from the hug. This is your lottery winning move.
You will most likely get a smile as she looks in your eyes. She may even give thanks verbally, which will tell you a lot about her personality. She may even announce blatantly that either that was the best hug ever or that you are a great hug giver.
To this day the winning response I consider to be my favorite is “Woww!” Another point is that regardless of how it seems to be the perfect time for a kiss, DO NOT. You don’t want to go the distance and ruin your chances at the very end by going another direction. Stephen Covey, the Seven Habits guy constantly reminds everyone to keep the important thing important. The objective here is to comfort her to MAKE HER CONFIDENT.
If you think about it, you have just branded her mind with the fact that you are the man to be with. She will constantly think about you from this day and may even imagine being married to you. If this sounds like it is out of this world, let me tell you that I have stopped counting the number of times I have heard girls say that they knew a man was “the one” from the moment they began hugging.
Of course, you may not be prepared to marry at the moment and of course you are not going to marry all the girls you meet. However, when representing what kind of guy women desire, you then automatically become the choice-maker rather than the person who exerts a lot of effort chasing all the girls in town. You will be able to SELECT which of the girls you know you want to be with more once you master the skill of how to hold a woman.
One thing I know for sure is that I, like most guys, have been drilled with stuff like how to give a fantastic orgasm or escalating Kino. On the other hand, it is a lost art to meaningfully mastering skills about how to hold a woman, and this is something that means a lot to a woman.
Being an art that is “lost,” many guys lose their chance when it comes to girls. I would like to dare you to put this to the test for yourself. Knowing that few other men will have skills like this will give you an edge. Once you are able to figure out how to hold a woman, you get a personal glimpse of what it feels like to be Prince Charming and the difference between this and someone she considers ‘just a friend.’
There is a huge difference between remaining ‘just a friend’ and starting out as friends and you having the possibilities of becoming more than friend. I just gave you a fantastic, efficient way to have the ability to move things in what direction YOU would like.